HOW TO PROPOSE

1. Think first. Is this a person that you really want to spend the rest of your life with? If so, read on.
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   • You've probably already been thinking this over for some time. It's a big step but also one that many more have already made. The important thing is to know that you love her and consider her to be "the one". Write down or think through a list of all the reasons that make you want to marry her. This will be important for expressing your love to her at the proposal, as well as confirming to yourself that you're making the right decision.
   • Avoid discussing your plans too widely with others, as it can soon filter back to her through the grapevine.
   • Psych yourself up for continuous wedding talk and preparations once you've asked her. It's useful to have an idea in your own mind about the length of time you'd like between the engagement and the wedding, realizing that she'll have her own ideas about this too.
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    If the parents are old-fashioned and your significant other wouldn't find it offensive or sexist, you could consider asking her parents for permission.
   If the parents are old-fashioned and your significant other wouldn't find it offensive or sexist, you could consider asking her parents for permission. Although asking a father's permission is considered by many to be old-fashioned, it hasn't died out precisely because it's a gesture that suggests that you respect her and her family and that you're always going to be considerate of her family. It's also a sign of politeness, and what family can resist that?
   • Put her first – is this something that would be important to her and her family? Or is it something that might make her cringe? Or maybe she is estranged from her family. Take your cues from your knowledge of her existing situation and preferences. You should know her well enough by now.
   • Another modern twist on asking for permission is to do so after you've proposed. This can be a way of ensuring that your wife-to-be is the first to be asked but she's aware that you still intend to bring her family right into the fold by asking; this can also be a good excuse to turn up together to share the news. Some people consider that this is the "wrong way around" but it's still a sign of respect, and frankly, it's your choice.
   • If it isn't possible to ask her father, ask her mother.
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    Decide when to propose.
   Decide when to propose. It's important to get the timing right, and timing is really only something that you can work out. It's not possible to say that there are perfect times to propose but it is important that you propose at a time when you're not rushed and when you feel calm, sorted, and ready. Once you've planned the proposal in as much detail as possible, then the time will be right. Some things to keep in mind though:
   • Is there a meaningful day to the both of you? Such as an anniversary of your relationship or first date, or some other commemoration?
   • Sometimes the time chooses itself by sheer practicality, especially if the two of you are living in different cities and come together for a special holiday event and this is your only chance to ask her.
   • Consider the time of year she wants to get married. It's helpful to ask her or indirectly through her friends or family if there is a certain season, month, or length of time she wants to be engaged in order to plan the wedding without feeling overwhelmed or rushed.
   • Proposing on special holidays or birthdays has advantages and drawbacks. On the one hand, these days can make the occasion more meaningful, especially if family is gathered around or it's a time of great joy. On the other hand, you will always share your proposal date with the holiday date; if you want to celebrate your engagement date, this can make it feel less impersonal for some, while for others, it's a great way to remember!
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    Decide where you will propose.
   Decide where you will propose. The place and atmosphere of the proposal will be remembered forever and the most important thing to remember is that you are the principal creator of the atmosphere! Naturally, you can propose absolutely anywhere but it helps to choose a place that will be meaningful for both of you and where you can feel comfortable, calm, and natural.
   • Where are her favorite places? Does the love the beach, sunsets, tall buildings, bridges, cityscapes, nature, etc.? Or perhaps she'd appreciate a private screening in the local cinema?
   • What is practical? The harder you try to create a special occasion, the more things can go wrong. Sometimes it's just easier to focus on what you know will work and will be appreciated by both of you.
   • Consider romantic places such as the beach, a botanical garden, a famous restaurant with an amazing view, a covered bridge, a picnic, etc.
   • Consider the things the two of you love doing together. Perhaps this can serve as a source of inspiration, such as proposing when you're out camping, fishing, sailing, hiking, cycling, attending a sports event, traveling somewhere, etc.
   • Make reservations if you need to. If you're proposing somewhere like a restaurant where you need to be able to get the best table, etc., be sure to reserve it well in advance.
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   Decide how you will propose. Once you've decided the when and the where, the intimate details of the how need consideration. Naturally, there is the ring to produce but what other elements do you want to add into the mix to make this an especially memorable and romantic occasion for her? Bear in mind that the manner in which you propose will be retold by her many times over, so make sure it's good! There are many possibilities and it's entirely up to you what you do but for some inspiration, here are some suggestions:
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      Try the traditional pose.
     Try the traditional pose. Bend down on one knee, take her hand in yours and ask her to marry you. The beauty of this gesture is that it's universally recognized thanks to the movies, and it can be performed anywhere. Just note that if there are other people around, they'll be eavesdropping (kindly!), so expect their interest and support.
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      Think about things that might accompany the occasion, such as a quartet playing a tune or a serenade, or a tiny fireworks display, etc.
     Think about things that might accompany the occasion, such as a quartet playing a tune or a serenade, or a tiny fireworks display, etc. These sorts of extras are not necessary and they will bloat the budget unless you've got willing friends to help out, but if it's your kind of thing, they can add to the atmosphere.
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      Hide the ring.
     Hide the ring. This is another popular method for proposing that requires her to find the ring, and then you do the proposing. Places to hide a ring include inside flowers, chocolates, or a special gift. be sure to ask her to open the gift at the time, or you might be waiting ages! And take great care not to hide it somewhere that she can accidentally swallow it; that'll put a big dent in the occasion.
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      Be creative.
     Be creative. If you're not so traditional or you're not that keen to say the proposal yourself, there can be a number of other ideas for proposing that involve some more planning but can be really entertaining as well as confirming for her that you're the kooky guy she wants to spend the rest of her life with. You could prepare her very own word puzzle or crossword in which the final answer spells "Will you marry me?". Or you could have a plane write the question across the sky as the two of you are walking along. Perhaps use publicity, such as taking out an advertisement in the paper that you know she'll read, or getting her favorite radio DJ to announce the proposal, or place a big banner with the question on it over a bridge she drives under every day.
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    Look for a ring.
   Look for a ring. Ask her mom or best friend what her ring size is. If you don't know, get a temporary ring, and then get another after you propose; for many women, choosing their own ring is the preferred option.
   • Read How to choose an engagement ring for more information.
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    Or just wear whatever's practical!
   Be dressed in your best according to the occasion and choice of place. Dress well to be sure that you're as handsome and attractive as can be. This is a very special occasion and it deserves to be "picture perfect". She'll appreciate the effort you've gone to.
   • Naturally, this only applies where you're planning to propose somewhere elegant and you have time to change beforehand. If you're proposing on the beach, during a hike,skiing, or as you're skydiving, use your common sense about what to wear!
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    Practice.
   Practice. If you're going to propose, it pays to practice. Practice asking, and practice explaining the reasons as to why you love her so much that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. This will help you avoid being tongue-tied when the important moment comes up.
   • Keep the proposal simple, to the point, and from the heart. For example: "Melody, I love you more than words can ever express. You're the most thoughtful, generous, kind, and beautiful woman I've ever had the fortune to know and I'd be honored to have the chance to spend my life with you. Will you marry me?"
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    Seal it with a kiss!
   After double-checking everything, go forth and propose. There is no time like the present to move on with your carefully thought through plan. Bring her along to "the place" and start unfolding your plans. Be sure that you don't give things away by touching the ring in your pocket constantly, or saying daft things. Some things to bear in mind post-proposal:
   • There may be tears, screaming, or shock. Don't be phased, these are fairly standard reactions, even if she has every clue of what you're about to do. It's not real to her until it's done!
   • If she says yes, end the proposal with a kiss or a hug.
   • If she says no, react with understanding and don't be petulant. She may need time to think and a memory of your sour face and grumpy attitude will leave a bad impression in her mind. Be a gentleman.

   •  HERE SOME MORE TIPS ARE SHARED

   • If you're deciding between a round cut diamond and a square cut, go with the round. It looks larger, and it's timeless." 

     Most men have a general idea of how to propose: buy a ring, get down on one knee and ask her to marry you. But in the days of over-the-top weddings and high expectations, those three steps aren’t always enough to knock her socks off. 

     The essentials

     There are tricks to improve even the basics. First, keep things to yourself. The truth is, the more people you talk to about the proposal, the more likely it is that something will slip -- even from people who wouldn't normally cross paths with your future fiancee. Everyone should be on a “need to know” basis. If you’re deciding between a round-cut diamond and a square cut, go with the round. It looks larger, and it’s timeless. And for the most bang for your buck, choose a setting in white gold or palladium instead of platinum so that you’ll be able to redirect more of your money towards the most important part -- the stone. If you’re not certain what type of ring to get her, go with a placeholder ring. A giant ring pop or plastic toy stone will make her smile and allow you to enjoy the shopping together. Finally, make sure you document it -- smartphones, flipcams, whatever it takes. You’ll be glad you did and so will she. 
     
     Most of all, remember that, while the wedding day is all about the bride, the proposal is the groom’s time to shine.  Here are some recent (successful) proposals to get your creative juices flowing:
     

     Make it personal

     One of our recent clients knew that his girlfriend’s favorite film was The Notebook.
     
     Tania was expecting to meet friends for drinks one evening, and a car was scheduled to pick her up. Instead of the regular town car, she was picked up by a black vintage Rolls Royce, a replica of one featured in the movie. In the car, she found a bouquet of her favorite white orchids and a notebook Mike had made himself. The car pulled up to a mansion in Manhattan, almost an exact replica of the house in the movie. White rose petals led her from the car to the parlor of the house and to Mike, waiting on bended knee. 
     
     How you do it: Start by making a simple list of the major events in your relationship: the location of your first date, the first time you said “I love you,” the address of your first shared apartment. Look for a common thread or something you can use to tie all of these things together in a creative way.
     

     Incorporate what she likes

     Dan, one of our clients, knew that his future fiancee, Melissa, loved reality television. 
     
     Using her sister as an accomplice, we told her she had won a spot on a new TV show about a fashion scavenger hunt. We hired a camera crew, two videographers, a sound person, and a director to act as the makers of the show, and closed down one of the top SoHo’s top boutiques for the day. She was picked up in a limo, dressed in designer labels and dropped at a famous NYC salon to get her hair and makeup done. The day ended with a photo shoot in her new outfit. 
     
     With the cameras still running and a fashion photographer snapping pictures, we boarded a yacht and sailed around the tip of Manhattan. As we rounded the corner to the Brooklyn Bridge a group onshore raised a huge sign that said “Will You Marry Me?” Dan boarded Melissa’s yacht from a separate boat in full tuxedo and proposed. After she said "yes," they toasted with her favorite champagne, Cristal. 
     
     How you do it: Brainstorm to find out things she loves, the things that make her happy or that she’s always wanted to do. Has she always dreamed of traveling to Paris or of being a princess? Maybe she watches Dancing with the Stars and yearns to try ballroom dancing? Tune into these fantasies and make them come to life as part of your proposal.
     
     More tips on how to make your engagement unforgettable next...
     
     Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice/27_dating_tips.html#ixzz20hpA2yNR

   • The details are what makes a generic proposal an amazingly personalized proposal." 

     Pay attention to the details

     Tanvi and Danny met on New Year's Eve a few years ago while she was traveling, and she extended her trip a few extra days to spend time with Danny. After a long-distance relationship between New York City and Miami, Danny told Tanvi to meet him at a hotel because his parents were coming to town. But as she entered the suite, instead of seeing his family, she saw an acoustic guitar playing their song, “You are My Sunshine.” Danny had also prepared a runner inscribed with the phrase “To a lifetime of adventures together” leading to a world map, a collection of vintage trunks, antique globes, and paper airplanes with memories of their travels written in calligraphy and vintage prints of their travel photos. Danny proposed and Tanvi said "Yes." 
     
     At dinner their place settings had printed cards: “Tanvi’s Future Groom” and “Dan’s Future Bride.” At their suite at the end of the night, the room was covered with rose petals and with a final surprise: an engraved compass and leather-bound journal that read: “To a lifetime of adventures together.” 
     
     How you do it: Once you have the big picture of your proposal in place, then start to fill in the blanks with details. Whether it’s using photos of you two or incorporating moments from your first date or first kiss, the details are what makes a generic proposal an amazingly personalized proposal.
     

     Think outside the box

     The main takeaway of these stories is that you should make your engagement something that reflects you as a couple and your unique relationship. Before you pop the question, think outside the ring box and plan an engagement that you’ll be proud to share for years to come.      
     
     Read more: http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice/27b_dating_tips.html#ixzz20hpX63Hi

   • How to Propose: Tips For The Guys

     surprise her

     Since your girlfriend probably has her own dream proposal ideas, you may be tempted to ask her for guidance on how to pop the question. Don’t do it. Keep your plans under wraps — she’d much prefer that you come up with a plan, any plan, than ask for her input. The surprise factor is key. Even if you went ring shopping together, or if she’s suspicious that a proposal is imminent, your lady wants to be caught off guard when you get down on one knee. A whopping 90 per cent of women say they do not want to be involved in the planning of their engagements (after all, they need to save up all their planning energies for the year of wedding prep that awaits), and only four per cent dismissed the “surprise factor” as unimportant.

     pick the right location

     The spot you choose for the special moment can make or break the mood and if you think that having a waiter bury the ring in a gooey dessert is a good idea, listen up. More than half of women we surveyed would not want to be proposed to in a restaurant. (As for the dessert thing: diamonds really have been swallowed and it isn’t worth the trip to Emergency!) The top three spots our girls said they’d prefer: On holiday, at the site of your first date or at a local landmark. Home was a close runner-up, but somebody else’s home (your parents’, a friend’s) was deemed a bad idea. Although this should hopefully go without saying, the majority of women wouldn’t want to be proposed to at a sports stadium (a tip-off that your girlfriend is one of the 11 per cent who would: she cherishes her collection of team jerseys more than any handbag).

     ask her about engagement rings?

     Yes, the surprise factor is huge, but not when it comes to the ring; 24 per cent of Knotties admitted to going ring shopping together and then letting him make the final choice. You too can suss out her cut, carat and colour preferences by browsing jewellery stores together or by asking one of her close friends what style of finger candy she might prefer. If you gather this insider information, you’ll be among the majority: More than 80 per cent of engaged women said that their fiancés got at least a little input from them or one of their friends or family members before purchasing the ring.

     size doesn’t matter…that much

     Although few women would object to having a massive rock (don’t believe her if she says, “It’s too big!”), you might be surprised to know that quality is equally or more important than carats to the majority of women. So don’t sacrifice clarity and colour in order to afford a mega-sized stone — only seven per cent of women said they’d prefer a big ring over a more beautiful small one.

     slip something on her finger

     It takes a lot of, um, confidence to choose an engagement ring with no guidance from your hoped-for fiancé, but if you’re not feeling bold enough to buy one on your own, that doesn’t mean you can propose empty-handed. “Proposing with no ring” was first in our survey as the biggest engagement mistake a guy can make. What also made the cut: proposing with a placeholder ‘proposal’ ring. She wants to show off her brand new ring right away — not have to explain to everyone that the real one is on its way.

     ask dad (and mum!) for her hand

     Since she’s a modern woman who makes her own decisions, you might think you can skip asking her father for permission to propose — but you’d be wrong to ignore this old-fashioned tradition. Only 19 per cent of women said that a guy should bypass this step in the betrothal process; the rest think that it’s absolutely essential or at least a nice gesture that would score points with their parents (and 22 per cent specified that an aspiring son-in-law should ask the Mums as well).

     say the words, “will you marry me?”

     Yes, you’ll be nervous, but don’t forget to get on bended knee and use the right lingo. Nearly 90 per cent of women said they want their future grooms to put their kneecap to the ground as they ask the question. And no matter what you say — even if you’ve written her an epic poem or composed a rock ballad in her honour — it’s essential that you finish with theprecise words: “Will you marry me?”

     If you’ve paid attention to our proposal pointers, you’re certain to get the answer you’re hoping for (plus a passionate display that your proposal passed muster).

     Marriage Proposals: 50 Romantic Ways to Propose

     
     

     Best Public Marriage Proposal Ideas
     Read more: Wedding Proposals: 50 Romantic Ways to Propose - Getting Engaged - Marriage Proposals http://wedding.theknot.com/getting-engaged/marriage-proposals/articles/50-romantic-ways-to-propose.aspx#ixzz20hr60p2o1. Have a flair for the dramatic? Get in touch with the stage manager of an appropriately themed production and propose after the cast's curtain call.
     2. Take out a full-page ad in a newspaper you know your girlfriend reads daily.
     3. Arrange a surprise proposal with a street caricaturist. Have him sketch a picture of you two with word bubbles. Yours will read, "Will you marry me?" and hers will say, "Yes!"
     4. Pay the divers at an aquarium to put on a proposal show inside their biggest fish tank. Give them a handwritten sign that says, "Will you marry me?" to hold up against the glass.
     5. Send your girlfriend on a treasure hunt. Start with a clue at home; then send her on a tour of your favorite spots all over town. When she gets to the last hint, the prize should be you on one knee.
     6. Go out for a night of dancing and ask the DJ or bandleader to pass you the mic so you can dedicate a song and propose on the dance floor.
     7. Hire a skywriter to spell out your proposal for everyone around to see.
     8. Flying anytime soon? Use the plane's loudspeaker system (of course, run your plan by the flight attendants first) and propose at 35,000 feet.
     9. Movie buffs? Ask your neighborhood theater to run an ad featuring your proposal and make sure you get there in time for the previews.
     10. Gather a bunch of your friends and family for a party. Have everyone in attendance put on a T-shirt bearing one of the letters in the phrase "Will you marry me?" When you walk into the room with your girlfriend, suggest a group picture and let the shirts speak for themselves.
     

     
     

     
     

     Best At-Home Marriage Proposal Ideas

     11. For a simple surprise, after she goes to bed, go to her jewelry box and replace her everyday ring with the engagement ring. She'll be completely shocked in the morning when she goes to put on her regular ring.

     12. Write her a love note with the proposal at the end of it. Tuck it into her favorite book or the one she happens to be reading at the moment, and when she finds the note, surprise her with the ring.

     13. Turn off all the lights in your apartment and make a trail of candles that leads to a circle of votives positioned around the ring.

     14. Slip the ring on her finger while she's sleeping and wake her with champagne and strawberries. At first, the gesture will simply seem romantic -- the real surprise comes when she notices her new piece of jewelry.

     15. Tie a red-velvet ribbon from one spot in your home to another. Attach little notes recalling perfect moments in your relationship along the way. You wait at the last stop, ring in hand.

     
     
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     Best Tech Marriage Proposal Ideas

     16. Create your own podcast proposal and sneak it onto her iPod.

     17. Upload a video of your proposal to YouTube (tell her you have a hysterical home movie to show her).

     18. Steal her digital camera and head to her favorite local outdoor spot. Bring a friend with you and have posters made with the words "will," "you," "marry" and "me?" Have your friend photograph you holding each one in a different position. Then, let her know you borrowed her camera and ask her to upload the photos.

     19. Take the scavenger hunt high-tech: Send your mate a text message leading her to a secret spot. Keep her engaged by text messaging her sweet nothings along the way (and directions, of course) as you lead her to you, on bended knee.

     20. Create a web page declaring your love and intentions. Leave your sweetie a clue with the web address written on it -- don't say a word. After the proposal has been officially accepted (which, of course, it will be!), she can proudly send the page to friends and family.

     21. Set up a live-stream channel (on Ustream.com) and invite all your friends and family to watch the proposal live from wherever you choose to propose!
     
     

     Best Foodie Marriage Proposal Ideas

     22. Make the box holding her ring a selection on the dessert tray at your favorite restaurant.

     23. Put together a gift basket of yummy delicacies -- the best chocolate or coffee -- and hide the ring among the presents (in its box, so it doesn't get lost in the goodies).

     24. Ask the pastry chef to write, "Will you marry me?" in chocolate sauce around the rim of her dessert plate.

     25. Ask a baker to make a cake with the proposal written in frosting. Have him display it in the storefront and suggest a little window-shopping to your girlfriend.

     26. Create a personalized fortune cookie with your own proposal message.

     
     
     
     
     

     Most Playful Marriage Proposal Ideas

     27. Create your own crossword puzzle and be prepared to help her work it out over breakfast.

     28. Spell your proposal out in glow-in-the-dark star stickers on your ceiling. Get into bed, turn the lights off and wait for the inevitable gasp.

     29. Spell out your proposal with refrigerator magnets.

     30. Sneak into her office or classroom before she gets there and write your proposal on her desk or on the blackboard. Stay hiding in the coat closet or right outside the room until she arrives.

     31. Get a ring size chart and ask your girlfriend to look up her size. When she accuses you of ruining the surprise that you're shopping for a ring, say, "Okay, try this one instead," and show her that you've already shopped for a ring.

     32. Play hangman and have the phrase be "Marry me."

     
     
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     Best Fall and Winter Marriage Proposal Ideas

     33. During your annual Halloween prep, challenge her to a pumpkin-carving contest and carve the words "Marry me" into your pumpkin.

     34. Write, "Will you marry me?" on the underside of a kite and take flight one warm, breezy afternoon.

     35. Have a friend or family member set up a picnic -- complete with wine and cheese, of course -- for you in a park. Take your girlfriend for a hike on a route where you'll stumble upon this surprise proposal picnic.

     36. Scratch your proposal into the frost on her car's windshield.

     
     
     
     
     

     Best Spring and Summer Marriage Proposal Ideas

     37. Propose in a flower or botanic garden when everything is in bloom.

     38. Gather your families together for a barbecue and make it a family affair.

     39. Go to the beach and casually build a sand castle (at a safe distance from the ocean!), and place the ring on the highest turret. Then invite her to admire your handiwork.

     40. Make your own message in a bottle. On the night before a beach day you've planned, write a love poem on a piece of parchment paper, roll it into an antique bottle with a cork and bury it in a well-marked spot in the sand near your towels. Be sure you "find" the bottle as you dig together -- and have the ring at the ready.

     
     
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     Most Thoughtful Marriage Proposal Ideas

     41. If you're artistically inclined or just like to make things with your own two hands, integrate something you've made into the proposal. For example, if you have woodworking skills, present the ring in a special hand-carved jewelry box.

     42. Buy a pet that she’s always wanted (bunny, kitten, puppy) and loosely tie the ring around its neck. Or substitute a stuffed animal -- still cute, but less maintenance!

     43. Tell your girlfriend you want to make a time capsule together to bury and dig up years into the future. As you're gathering the items, say it wouldn't be complete without a picture of the moment you two got engaged! Have a camera ready to take that shot right after you present her with the ring.

     44. Rent a Vespa scooter and invite your girlfriend for a ride, but remind her to be safe and wear a helmet. Hand her the helmet (with the ring box already in it), and then you can zip around town to celebrate!

     45. Meet for a drink at a posh hotel bar. When it's time to go, casually mention that you've already reserved a room for the night. When you open the hotel room door, have roses, candles and champagne all set up -- everything for a perfect surprise proposal.

     
     
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     Cheesy (but Hilarious) Proposal Ideas

     46. Make a list of 10 reasons you'd like to marry your beloved. Read them to her in front of a crowd, have them delivered via singing telegram or send them written on individual note cards over the course of a day (or 10!), with the last card arriving by personal messenger (you!).

     47. Want to really surprise your girlfriend? Cut out the bottom of a huge refrigerator box, wrap it with pretty paper and ribbon, and attach a card that says, "What's inside the box is a gift to last a lifetime." "Deliver" yourself to her office or front door.

     48. Make her ring the surprise in a box of Cracker Jack.

     49. Make her feel like a movie star and set your proposal to the scene of her favorite romantic movie. You could arrange your own Pretty Woman moment (the finale, of course): Rent a white limo and climb through the moonroof with flowers in hand to proclaim your love as you arrive at her place.

     50. Another funny movie proposal? Steal from that famous Say Anything scene: Park yourself outside her house with a stereo blaring your favorite tune and propose on the front lawn.

     
     
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     Marriage Proposals: The 5 Biggest Proposal Mistakes

     
     

     When you've made the decision to ask somebody to marry you, it's pretty inevitable that you'll be excited and anxious about the actual marriage proposal. After all, it's a moment that you both will remember (and repeat the story of) for the rest of your lives -- not to mention one that she's been dreaming about since she saw her first Julia Roberts movie. Bottom line: She'll be overjoyed simply by being asked, but don't let your nerves lead you to make one of these all-too-common marriage proposal mistakes.

     

     Asking Empty-Handed

     In a recent survey by The Knot, "proposing with no ring" was ranked #1 as the biggest engagement faux pas a guy could make. Sure, your declaration of love and request for a lifetime commitment should be more important than whether or not you're bearing jewelry, but you have to understand that to a woman (and her friends and her mother) an engagement won't seem 100 percent legit unless she's got an engagement ring to show for it. If you don't feel confident enough to pick a bauble without her input, buy one from a jeweler with an exchange policy or borrow a family heirloom that can act as a placeholder until you go shopping together. (And if you're not dead set on making your proposal a total surprise, you can take her ring-shopping in advance -- more than 50 percent of women surveyed said that they had something to do with choosing their rings.)

     

     Jumping the Gun

     Your girl's got it all -- brains, beauty, and a willingness to spend Sunday afternoons eating salt and vinegar potato chips in front of ESPN. Though you're understandably eager to seal the deal, cool your jets until you're beyond the dizzy-with-infatuation stage. You won't be truly ready for a lifetime commitment until you've tackled some real relationship challenges, weathered your beloved's every mood, and received unequivocal signs that she's equally ready to commit. Proposing too early may scare her off or result in an awkward "let me think about it and get back to you..."

     

     Proposing in Front of an Audience

     Though you may be so passionate about your hoped-for bride that you want to shout your proposal for the entire world to hear, it's much more likely that she'd prefer you keep the engagement a just-the-two-of-you occasion. In our survey most women deemed "proposing in public" and "proposing in front of friends or family" as the biggest blunders an aspiring fiance could make (don't even think about a sports stadium unless that's where you met/first kissed/fell in love). She won't be able to savor the moment if she feels like she's on stage. Once you've asked and she's (hopefully) accepted, you two will want to linger in your own little love bubble for a while -- not possible if colleagues, cousins, or perfect strangers are getting in your faces to congratulate you. Note: Not all public places are off-limits, 58 percent said that the site of your first date is the best place to propose.

     

     Blabbing About the Plan

     Getting loose-lipped and telling friends or family members about your intention to propose (let alone the specifics of how you're going to do it) is another big "don't." You might think that the people you confide in would never spill the beans, but information this juicy will probably make the rounds. If too many people know about your proposal plans, it's more than possible that your fiance-to-be will catch wind of them too. And even if nobody spoils the surprise, she'll be unhappy if she later learns that lots of your friends (or hers) knew about the engagement before she did (and that she didn't have the chance to surprise them).

     

     Not Waiting for the Right Moment

     If you're like many guys, once you've made the decision to propose, you want to get it over with ASAP. And once there's a ring burning a hole in your pocket, you may feel like you won't be able to breathe easy until it's off of your person and securely on her fourth finger. But don't let your nerves make you blurt out those four little words before the moment's right -- remember that she's going to be telling your marriage proposal story for the rest of your lives, and you want the tale to sound more epic romance than situation comedy. She asks what's in your pocket in line at the grocery store? Make up any excuse to avoid an express line engagement. She drank too much bubbly at your candlelit dinner and is slurring her words? Better to wait and do it the next morning over breakfast in bed (provided her head isn't pounding too hard).
     
     Read more: Marriage Proposal Mistakes - Getting Engaged - Popping the Question http://wedding.theknot.com/getting-engaged/marriage-proposals/articles/wedding-proposals-5-biggest-proposal-mistakes.aspx#ixzz20hsNClDd

     
     

     How to Propose to Your Boyfriend

     
     

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         Is he the one?
        
        Reach your own sense of comfort with making this move. There is no reason that a woman cannot make a proposal to a man these days.^[1] What may be holding you back is fairytale visions, concerns about the man's feelings, and simply getting up the courage to ask something that can carry the risk of rejection.
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        • Be sure that he is "the one" and that you are totally ready for this commitment before launching in. How will this change your life and can you see yourself as being fulfilledwith such changes?
     2. 2
        

         Wait for the right time.
        Gauge your boyfriend's chances of proposing to you. Before you do consider proposing, be alert to the possibility that he might be considering proposing. The following "about-to-propose" indicators might help your sleuthing:^[2]
        • How long have you been together? The longer the time, the more likely he's thinking of proposing.
        • What does he say when you tell him you want to be with him forever? Notice his reactions. Or maybe he is the one doing all the talking about the future.
        • Has he been acting a little nervous lately, and perhaps even showing interest in other people's weddings? Perhaps he's started saving up all of a sudden, or he's even indulged you by asking what you're reading when looking at bridal magazines in the store.
        • Is he spending more time with you and less with his friends lately? Does he appear more nervous around your own friends?
        • You've caught him looking in your jewelery box.
        • He's keen to spend time around your parents and family all of a sudden.
        • He's arranged an unexpected outing that is out of character. It could be the proposal!
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         If your boyfriend is highly responsive to your probing about spending your future together or he has initiated discussions about your future together, or the "indicators" seem to hint at a forthcoming proposal, you could decide to go ahead knowing you're making the right decision.
        If your boyfriend is highly responsive to your probing about spending your future togetheror he has initiated discussions about your future together, or the "indicators" seem to hint at a forthcoming proposal, you could decide to go ahead knowing you're making the right decision. You could also choose to wait, since a proposal may be coming your way, but since the point of this article is not about waiting and about you doing the proposing, don't feel obliged to wait. On the other hand, if he seems to be fairly non-committal about the future the two of you have together, you may need to look into this a little further, although a proposal is one certain means for getting commitment issues out into the open!
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         If he sees himself as your knight in shining armor, things might be awkward...
        Be considerate of the emotional realities. While the modern approach to proposals has been turned on its head, the old-fashioned notions continue to linger. So, be understanding that there is a sense of "weirdness" for some men when it comes to a woman doing the proposing. Whether he's the biggest jock or the biggest geek, a lot of men are uncomfortable with the idea of a woman assuming the role of the "proposer". Ask yourself: Is your guy enlightened enough to handle this?
        • Consider sounding out his possible reaction by creating a fictitious scenario in which a co-worker or a friend of a friend who is a female proposed to her now-husband. Tell him about it and gauge his reaction from the story by weaving in your opinion about what happened and eliciting his views with some careful questions or statements. Based on these reactions, you will have a better idea of his responsiveness.
        • Be reassured by the fact that many men need and actually like this "nudge", especially to change long-term dating or cohabiting into a marriage.^[3]
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         The modern woman knows where she's going
        Consider if you're enlightened enough to handle this. Gone will be your guy getting down on bended knee. Gone will be his attempts to compare the 4C's when saving up for theengagement ring. And gone will be a romantic gesture at which you get to flutter and feel fussed over. Are you OK with this? Because if you're not, stop right now!
        • Will you be happy when other people keep asking things like "So where did he propose to you?" and "How did he propose to you?" You will have a lot of setting people straight on this, so be forewarned that a good sense of humor is much needed!
        • If you're the kind of woman who lives life large and isn't worried about conventions and knows what she wants, this step will be a breeze to jump over. When you know what the right thing to do is, you know it, so get to it!
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         Ah, she's on about the future again...
        Be aware that talking a lot about future commitments will put your boyfriend's relationship radar on alert. It might be gradually evident but anything smelling of long-term commitment is something most guys tend to pick up fairly soon. You may be getting vibes and signals about the appropriateness or otherwise of thinking long-term commitment for the pair of you by now, so let this be part of your guide as to the suitability or otherwise of proposing.
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         Take time to think through what will make it really special
        Prepare for the proposal. This is up to you but you're now in the position of making it as romantic, wonderful, surprising, and loving as possible. Things to think about include:
        • Where will you propose? His favorite running park, his contemplation spot overlooking the sea, out on a yacht, at a sit-down meal, or walking somewhere special together? Think about what places matter a lot to both of you, as well as a place where you'll be sure that the two of you won't be interrupted or distracted.
        • Avoid doing anything that is out of character for you. Let your own personality traitsshine through as a big part of the proposal, because that's why he loves you.
        • Take care to avoid simply switching how you think you'd like to be proposed to and planting that idea onto this proposal. He's a man and flowers and intimate candlelit dinners may not be the best way to his heart on this occasion. Use what you know about your boyfriend to tailor a very special proposal.
        • Are there any inside jokes you can rely on to help the proposal take on more meaning?
        • The ring isn't really an issue here. If he says yes, the two of you can now do the modern thing of choosing your engagement ring together. However, some women do provide a token ring, such as a beer tab, at the moment of proposal;^[4] the suitability of such a token depends on your own preferences and your knowledge of him.
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         Think about what you're going to say.
        Think about what you're going to say. There is no standard proposal and no right or wrong way but it is important to express how much you love him and to identify specific things about him that cause you to want to spend the rest of your life with him. Talk about the future and how much it means to you to have him by your side in this future; paint the vision for him as you propose.
        • Brief is good. He will probably be very surprised and the more you drag it out, the harder it gets for both of you!
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         Yep! I'm ready to do this!
        Check your confidence again. If you're not ready to do this, do some further investigation into what's holding you back or confusing you and revisit the proposal when you feel more confident. Otherwise, it's full steam ahead.
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          Propose.
         Propose. You are going to be nervous and there is always a risk of a negative or non-committal response. Be prepared for that and also have a gracious response in reply in that event. If you've read all the signs right though, he is likely to say yes.
         • Let your heart guide you. While it's a good idea to rehearse your proposal words beforehand, it's also good to keep some of it spontaneous.
         • Admit to your nervousness; this vulnerability is endearing and helps your boyfriend to understand just how much courage this is requiring from you.
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          Celebrate.
         Celebrate. If he says yes, have something special planned to celebrate the occasion such as opening a bottle of champagne or going somewhere that's special to both of you.
     • Maintain a mood of grace and acceptance if he says no or that he needs time to think it over. Putting on a turn or cold-shouldering him will only cause him to feel reassured that declining your proposal was the right thing to do. Tell him it's OK to take more time but that your proposal definitely still stands.

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         "How To Propose Marriage" - The Guide

         

         So you are here looking for advice on how to propose marriage right? This is no easy task and it will take the proper planning. The first thing to understand when proposing marriage is that the style depends on you and your future spouse (assuming all goes well). Only you should truly know what wedding proposal style will blow their mind and well most importantly make sure they say yes lol – that is the goal right. So how do you get started? If you follow the below steps on how to propose marriage you should be just fine.

          

         How to Propose Rule #1:

         Get To Know The Prson You Are About To Propose To.

         This is important for two reasons. 1) It would be bad to get engaged to someone who is a nightmare to be around and 2) You need to understand what type of proposal they would like you to do based upon common interests.

          

         How to Propose Rule #2:

         Have A Real Proposal Plan!

         While it may work to propose while sipping on a glass of wine at dinner, does that really wow her? Maybe not. Your proposal plan should require preparation and creativity. You know her crazy friends... The first question they will ask is "Sooooo how did he propose?". Do you want her to have a good answer? Do it up!

          

         How to Propose Rule #3:

         Stick To Your Roots.

         Have you ever had been skydiving together? No – then why risk such an important day and blow your chance with her getting sick and most likely pissed off lol. Make your marriage proposal something you are both comfortable with but also something worth remembering.

          

         How to Propose Rule #4:

         Have A Ring.

         
         

         That was obvious right? It is somewhat hard to have a marriage proposal in today’s society without one so thought I'd be safe and mention it. When you propose you should have the ring of her dreams and ideally one that fits. Think about all of the times people buy you clothes or shoes as a gift. You love them so much you want to put them on right away but wait they don't fit. Kills the excitement right? Remember that!

          

         How to Propose Rule #5:

         Prepare Your Proposal Speech.

         When you get on one knee to seal the deal on your creative proposal it may not be necessary to say anything but it certainly can’t hurt. Plan ahead of time and know what you are going to say. Something other than "so will ya?" would be ideal lol.

          

         How to Propose Rule #6:

         Make it happen!

         What else do you need to know on how to propose marriage? Be confident, be prepared and you should be fine. Think of it as a job interview for a position that lasts your entire life. Side note: If you anticipate the job sucking, walk away now and forget all that you have read lol.

         So How Did I Propose Marriage?

         Well you are reading it as we speak. My plan is to use what I do in my career (SEO, Site Design) to create a website that will rank in a search for something crazy like "how to propose marriage" or "how to get engaged". Nerdy you say? It absolutely is! haha

         So we have a website built and it is ranking for wedding proposal how to keywords what now? My plan is to take a walk on the beach (our favorite place to hang out together) and randomly mention something like: "You should check out this website on how to propose, it's really funny/cool/whatever." I pull out my cell phone and search for "how to propose guide", "how to propose marriage" or "how to propose" and voila my site ranking so check it out.

         The next step here is pretty straight forward but this is where I get down on one knee.

         So Jordan, will you marry me? (Note to Jordan: You should stop reading the how to guide now and say yes please.)

64 Ways to Say I Love You - Expressing Love

64 Ways to Say "I Love You"

1. Don't compare them to anyone.
2. Be courteous at all times.
3. Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
4. Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
5. Say "I love you" by giving your full attention when talking.
6. Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
7. Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
8. Tell them how they bring love to your life.
9. Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
10. Talk about your dayduring mealtimes.
11. Read books aloud together.
12. Say you're sorry.
13. Recall good and bad memories.
14. Let go of the past to say "I love you."
15. Do nothing together.
16. Encourage health in all its forms.
17. Trust your partner enough to cry together.
18. Act silly together.
19. Be lavish in praise.
20. Ask questions about opinions, feelings, thoughts.
21. To say I love you, forget about labels.
22. Encourage adventures and risks!
23. Remember: there is one best way to say "I love you"!
24. Show your joy when they come home.
25. Bake cookies.
26. Leave stress at work to say "I love you."
27. Use flannel sheets in the winter.
28. Solve problems together - such as crosswords or Suduku.
29. Show your gratitude for them.
30. Be a good sounding board.
31. To say I love you, take pride in them -- and show it.
32. Compliment them in front of others.
33. Spend time with them.
34. Listen.
35. Ask for hugs and kisses.
36. Take vacations together.
37. Tell the truth to say I love you.
38. Use pet names to say "I love you."
39. Practice self-acceptance.
40. Hunt for treasure together.
41. Be interested in their interests.
42. To say I love you, let go of jealousy.
43. Accept their weaknesses and flaws.
44. Ditch work or responsibilities to play with them.
45. Be yourself.
46. Share chocolates, ice cream sundaes, milkshakes.
47. To say "I love you", ignore slights.
48. Pray or meditate together.
49. Practice forgiveness.
50. Watch classic movies together.
51. Leave notes or send letters.
52. To say I love you, buy a "for no reason at all" gift.
53. Don't gossip or judge.
54. Give the benefit of the doubt to say I love you.
55. Give space when they're in a bad or sad mood.
56. Learn something new together.
57. Go dancing.
58. Keep your promises to say I love you.
59. Make them laugh.
60. Consider their feelings.
61. Learn ways to rekindle the romance.
62. Hide a treat in their lunch.
63. To say "I love you," make home a fun place to be.
64. Let them make their own decisions.
65. Say what you mean when you say I love you. Say why.

The Secret Language of Love

The saying used to go that every man wants to be Cary Grant. Today you could substitute George Clooney, or any other bachelor admired for his steadfast commitment to caddishness.

The truth? We’re all Romeos at heart. At least, that’s what a recent study suggests. Researchers at MIT found that men are actually in a bigger hurry to lock things down than women—the first by a wide margin to say the three little words that convey total commitment: I love you.

The study, published last week in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that while 64 percent of people surveyed believed women were generally the first to profess their love, men were actually far more likely to do so—61 percent of the time. Men even started thinking about saying the words roughly six weeks before women did—at the three-month mark versus just over four months for women.

So, have men suddenly turned into blubbering, Hallmark-quoting softies? Not quite. A far more probable and powerful motivator still holds sway. And it’s a little complicated.

“On one level, you’re just telling people how you feel,” says Joshua Ackerman, Ph.D., a professor at MIT’s Sloan School of Management and the study’s lead author. “On another you’re saying those words because you want the relationship to move forward. And on another level, the implication is that it’s going to move forward into sex, for those who haven’t had it yet.”

In many relationships, the first sign of true commitment coincides with the start of a more open and active sex life. Not coincidentally, the timing of a man’s declaration varied wildly depending on the stage of the relationship he’d reached—and the type of relationship he desired. Men who had yet to get physical, the study found, preferred to hear declarations of love before sex. Simple reason: When many guys hear, “I love you,” they also subconsciously hear, “I want to sleep with you.” Women, on the other hand, preferred to hear the declaration afterwards. “For women there’s this broader sense of romantic love involved,” says Ackerman. “It’s less about the short-term arousal.”

If a guy desired a short-term relationship, he felt happier when a woman said she loved him before sex than after. “For those men, ‘I love you’ is a signal that sex is on the horizon. Men in long-term relationships, however, are more in line with women.”

Helen Fisher, a relationship expert and author of Why We Love, sees a man’s rush to commit as more of an evolutionary outgrowth. “It’s adaptive for men to secure a mating partner before she finds another,” she says. “Women are the custodian of the egg and bearers of the young—highly valuable assets to a man. And if a man can secure this tremendous asset before he has to fight other men for her, he will save time and metabolic energy, as well as win life’s greatest prize—a mating partner.”

All of this goes to demonstrate that what may seem like three simple words can carry much larger implications. When you’re ready to speak up, follow the advice below to take your relationship to the next level. And before you open your mouth, memorize the 17 things you should never say to a woman.

Be Patient. Declare your love too soon and you could risk spooking her. “Too soon is using it to ‘close the deal’,” says Lou Paget, a certified sex educator and author of How to Be a Great Lover. “Wait until she’s indicated some physical comfort with you. Women often are thinking of potential and they use many indicators—the right look, kindness, smell. She’ll indicate her comfort level by going into your space—like touching and leaning. Those are the preludes to sex.”

Sober up. A lot of moments in a man’s life call for a drop of liquid courage, and this might seem like one of them. Trust us, nothing will spoil the mood—and undercut your sincerity—faster than booze on your breath.

Don’t plan. You’re not proposing, so just say it when it feels most natural. “Planning can make you more nervous and may sound canned,” says Paget. “Spontaneity is invariably better. The ‘I Love Yous’ that tend to be the most impactful are said very softly—love is gentle and soft, and a declaration in that tone matches the emotion.”

Mean it. Women have remarkably accurate bullshit detectors, and their sensitivity grows exponentially stronger when you’re in the mood. And that goes double if you’re George Clooney or Cary Grant. Here’s how to Navigate the Biggest Relationship Milestones.

—Mike Darling

Read more at Men's Health: http://blogs.menshealth.com/health-headlines/the-secret-language-of-love/2011/04/24#ixzz20hxOZfHz